Are you stuck in a never-ending cycle of not achieving your goals or making any significant progress?
You set a goal for yourself, for example, get rid of belly fat. Three months later, you haven’t achieved your goal or made any progress.
If you want to achieve your goals and make significant progress, you need to achieve self-discipline.
Why You Can’t Achieve Self-Discipline
Self-discipline is difficult to achieve. But I’ve realized in order to achieve my goals, I need to discipline myself first.
I used to be addicted to sodas and ice cream. I couldn’t pass by without yielding to the temptation. Even if I felt horrible afterward, I didn’t care as long as I had my soda and ice cream. I didn’t know this was affecting me negatively.
A few months ago, I started having bad headaches. I drank water and green tea in an effort to cleanse my body. I felt a bit of relief but it didn’t take the headaches away.
I began to take an inventory of everything I was putting into my body. I also paid attention to the way my food intake was affecting me.
I realized when I ate bread (white or wheat), the headaches increased. So I cut this out of my diet. I also cut out sodas and ice cream. I forced myself to sleep at least six hours every night.
Julie Choi in a Lifehack article emphasizes that sugar-laden drinks such as sports drinks and sodas can lead to weight gain, sugar crashes and headaches.
The headaches reduced drastically until I forgot they existed. When this happened, I relaxed on my strict diet and the headaches returned.
After a while, I asked myself if the pain was worth it. It wasn’t. I finally let go of all the harmful food and drinks I was giving my body.
Until the pain of where you are right now is greater than the pleasure you feel, you won’t achieve self-discipline.
This doesn’t mean you need to have bad headaches. It could be you realize you’ve gained a lot of weight or you are tired of your job and need to leave it.
Whatever the pain is, let it be your motivation to achieve your dreams.
A friend of mine has talked for years about how he wants to be the world’s greatest entrepreneur. He has amazing dreams. He knows what he wants to achieve but lacks the discipline to follow through to achieve his goals.
I think there’s a part of him that’s still comfortable with his current situation. The pain of where he is now is not greater than the comfort he feels from having a steady income.
Are you addicted to unhealthy food?
Are you addicted to spending above your monthly income?
Are you addicted to Netflix, sports channels or TV?
Are you addicted to taking selfies and uploading them on Instagram?
You need to be self-disciplined.
Here are three steps which have helped me to achieve self-discipline.
Identify What You Want
You need to know what you really want. If you don’t know this, you won’t be able to get what you want.
What do you want? Do you want to live a healthy life? Do you want to finally quit your job? Do you want to stop sabotaging your relationships?
When you decide what you want, it’s easier to find your way there.
Identify Your Pain Triggers
What causes you pain when you think about it?
For example, you want to live a healthy life. Why? Is any part of your body in pain right now? Do you have a history of a certain illness in your family you need to avoid? Do you feel you don’t look good in outfits anymore and you need to lose weight?
Identify your pain triggers. Write them in your journal. Be honest with yourself about them and this will help you move forward.
Set effort-based goals
Effort-based goals are specific goals you set which help you meet your overall goal. For example, you want to lose weight. Your effort-based goal could be you would exercise for 30 minutes every day. This would bring you closer to achieving your goals.
Set goals you can control. Set the goal based on the effort you want to achieve.
I set a goal of writing 500 words every morning. This makes me get out of bed in the mornings to write before I go to the day job. In achieving this effort-based goal, I am able to meet my overall goal of helping people achieve their dreams.
When you set effort-based goals, it helps you to control what you can achieve. It also motivates you to be self-disciplined.
“Frequent small steps beat occasional big leaps every time”. — Jeff Goins
You need to take small steps every single day. This gives you the benefit of compound interest. You achieve your goals with every little step you take.
Do you want to live a healthy life? Achieve self-discipline.
Do you want to be amazing at your job or change your career? Achieve self-discipline.
Do you want to become successful in your business? Achieve self-discipline.
Without self-discipline, you’ll keep running around in circles.
Decide today to achieve self-discipline.
You’d be amazed at the significant progress you’d make.
Now I would love to hear from you. Which area of your life are you struggling to be disciplined? How will you apply these three steps to achieve self-discipline? I look forward to your comments.
Dedicated to your success,
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