You are in your mid 30s. Life has been good to you; maybe not great, but at least, it’s been good.
When you look back on your life, you realize you have many achievements to be proud of. But instead of feeling great, you have a deep feeling of emptiness.
If you were to be honest with yourself, you would admit you are scared.
Scared to learn new skills.
Scared to try something different.
Scared to pursue the dream hidden deep within your heart.
I currently work as a project manager. My colleagues and superiors refer to me as a Rockstar project manager.
When I decided to start blogging, I realized I would have to learn new skills and learn them fast. The art of writing and building an audience seemed scary to me.
It’s been hard to admit I don’t know everything. It’s been hard to admit learning new skills can be tough and overwhelming.
Ego stops you from achieving your dreams.
I would like to share with you 3 ways you can overcome your ego and be successful.
How To Overcome Your Ego
1. Define what you want
“If your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess super human powers to achieve”. — Napoleon Hill
This might seem like a simple statement but a lot of people don’t know what they want. You need to define it for yourself. No one can do this for you.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- If you died today, what would your greatest regret be?
- What scares and excites you at the same time?
- What keeps you awake at night?
These questions will help you define what you want.
2. Break down your dream into small steps
“Frequent small steps beat occasional big leaps every time”. — Jeff Goins
Having a big dream can scare you into not trying at all. Breaking down your dream into small steps makes it less intimidating.
For example, you want to be a fashion designer. How would you break down this dream into small achievable steps?
- Take a fashion designing course (a course you can afford right now)
- Make an outfit for yourself
- Show it to a friend
- If your friend likes the outfit, make an outfit for her
- If she doesn’t like it, show it to another friend
- If no one likes it, make another outfit
These might seem like small steps but they take you closer to the achievement of your dream. You also feel less intimidated.
3. Assess your improvement weekly
“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better”. — Elon Musk
Assess your improvement every week. You could do this every weekend, Saturday or Sunday. Write details of your progress in your journal. Celebrate your achievements no matter how small they might seem.
Celebrating yourself makes you feel great. It inspires you to do more.
In your journal, assess your progress based on your defined dream. This will help you know what you need to do next or the activities you need to repeat.
Don’t allow your ego stop you from achieving your dreams. According to Business Insider, Col. Harland Sanders didn’t become a professional chef until he was 40. He was not afraid to develop new skills. KFC is a true testament to a man who didn’t allow his ego stop him from becoming successful.
It’s never easy to learn new skills. But it is possible.
Amy Gallo in Harvard Business Review says mastering new skills is not optional in today’s business environment. James Altucher constantly speaks about re-inventing yourself. Debra Lobel also speaks of how she reinvented herself.
Reinvent yourself. Don’t be afraid. Overcome your ego.
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Dedicated to your success,
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