Your dream might seem so big you think you will never achieve it. It might scare you to pieces, make you hide under your bed and never come out.
The road to success is not an easy road. You face many obstacles along the way. These obstacles, whether real or imagined create fear within you and hold you back from achieving your dreams.
We are often pushed into doing something we are afraid to do and we think ‘nope, I’m staying right here’. Every day we hear stories of how people successfully overcame their fears. These stories seem inspiring; they make us want to run out of our hidden corners into the light. But we stay hidden, afraid to be discovered.
Fear blocks the path to achieving our dreams
I conducted a survey with my readers in April titled ‘What is hindering you from achieving your dreams?’. Fear was in the top 3 reasons why people don’t achieve their dreams.
Fear holds us back for different reasons. We could be afraid due to past experiences or deep issues within us which have hidden root causes.
FEAR could be an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. It could be based on real evidence but this evidence is always in the past. The evidence does not exist now which makes it false in the present. No matter how much we think the evidence is false, it still grips us in its clutches.
Fear gripped me for years. I started a magazine in the University. It was successful at first but after one year, I struggled to get sponsors. I got to a point I couldn’t publish anymore. I felt like a failure.
I went into debt and it was hard to complete the payments to the printing company. It was a nightmare. After that experience, I tried to continue with the magazine or start a new publication but fear held me back. I was scared of failing. I was scared of looking stupid again to my family and friends.
A powerful way to overcome your fear
What dream do you have in your heart you want to accomplish despite the fears within you?
I have learned a powerful way to overcome your fear is to know your WHY.
Why do you want to achieve your dream? What is the underlying reason beneath your desire?
Desire is great but without a strong reason to back your desire, it is merely a wish.
Until I realized my WHY, I didn’t act on my dreams. I let fear cripple me for many years. I felt helpless against fear. No matter how hard I tried to move, I couldn’t.
One day, I was speaking at a Toastmasters meeting and it hit me. I hate to see people not achieve their dreams. I hate to see people not become who they were truly meant to be.
That’s my WHY.
I love to help people. I love seeing people wake up to the realization of who they are.
What is your WHY?
Your WHY will carry you through the dark and lonely nights of wondering if your dream will ever come to pass.
Your WHY will make you go on when no one appreciates you.
Your WHY will keep you strong when all hope seems lost.
We all feel fear but the people who have succeeded have learned to keep their WHY constantly in their minds. Their WHY keeps them awake when everyone else is sleeping. Their WHY makes them continue when no one is watching.
“When the WHY is strong enough, you’ll be willing to do any HOW. ” — Benjamin Hardy
Why do you want to achieve your dreams? What’s the underlying reason?
- Do you want to create a better home for your family?
- Do you love to travel and live the life of a digital nomad?
- Do you simply hate seeing people suffer?
Mother Teresa hated seeing people suffer. One of her favorite quotes was:
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without feeling happier.
Her strong WHY drove her to become one of the greatest humanitarians of the 20th century. She was canonized as Saint Teresa of Calcutta in 2016. She received the Nobel Peace Prize for her humanitarian work in 1979. She established a leper colony, a family clinic, an orphanage, a string of mobile health clinics and a nursing home.
Think deeply. What is your reason for doing what you do? Why do you want what you want?
Until you have a strong WHY, you will not be able to overcome your fear successfully.
I know life can be hard sometimes but don’t give up. Follow your heart. Keep going. Keep believing. Keep giving your all no matter the cost.
Find your WHY. Live your dreams. Don’t settle.
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Dedicated to your success,
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